When he finally finished himself off at the end of the month, he says he enjoyed “one of the best orgasms” he’s ever had. “My legs were shaking and my cock twitched a lot and I lost my breath,” he explains.

Ray’s edging practice is to simply stop stroking himself when he’s close to cumming. A guy can also grip the head of his cock to keep the ejaculate from shooting out, forcing the load back deeper into his reproductive organs where it’ll conveniently be reabsorbed. VoyeurOfBliss, who, along with his wife, publishes edging tutorials on Reddit and Pornhub, says there’s also the “dry male orgasm.” “The technique often involves a well-timed manual contraction of the kegel just as the male orgasm starts, interrupting the flow of semen,” he says.